What we do

Respect is a domestic abuse organisation for work with  perpetrators, male victims and young people’s violence in close relationships.


Perpetrators of domestic abuse

Working with the cause of the problem is a key strand of our work.

  • We run the Respect Phoneline – a helpline, email and webchat service for domestic abuse perpetrators who want to change. We advise male and female abusers, in same-sex or heterosexual relationships. We support frontline workers to work with perpetrators safely.
  • We have developed accreditation standards for services working with perpetrators. The Respect Accreditation Standard is the bench mark for the provision of quality interventions with men who use violence against their female partners. Find out where the nearest accredited service is.
  • Refuge and Respect worked together in 2009/10 to create a resource for employers and pilot it with public sector employers. it contains a workplace approach for supporting survivors of abuse and addressing perpetrators.    You can download the Employers’ Manual here and an evaluation of the pilot here.
  • We support a network of specialist programmes offering interventions to perpetrators. These services focus on changing the behaviour and managing the risk of perpetrators, with the safety of victims, including children, at their heart. We help new services to set up and existing ones to develop. We support best practice in commissioning. For information about Domestic Violence Prevention Programmes in your area, please call the Respect Phoneline on freephone 0808 8024040 (not our main office line).
  • Respect Directory of Professionals able to undertake expert assessments of domestic violence risks in family court proceedings. We have established a directory of professionals who are suitably qualified, trained and experienced to undertake assessments of domestic violence risks and impact in families involved in legal proceedings in relation to children. Respect aims to provide solicitors, Cafcass, our members and others with a list of suitable assessors they can contact when an expert assessment is required. We took this step following the recommendations of Dr. Chris Newman which explored what should be included in an expert assessment of domestic violence risks and the skills and experience necessary to undertake these assessments. Respect will aim to ensure the quality of the expert assessors listed in the directory through a peer review process which we hope will give confidence to professionals when choosing an assessor from the Respect directory.
  • The Drive Project: Drive is a project that will both challenge and support perpetrators to change their behaviour, while always holding them to account. It will change the public narrative from ‘why doesn’t she leave’ to ‘why doesn’t he stop?’. The Drive Partnership is made up of Respect, SafeLives and Social Finance.
  • Improving policy and practice: We work closely with other agencies – such as the Police, Children’s Services, Cafcass, Probation and Health – to improve frontline responses to perpetrators.

Male victims of domestic abuse

Respect has been supporting male victims of domestic abuse since 2007, when we launched the Men’s Advice Line as a UK-wide service on freephone 08088010327. Since then, we have helped thousands of male victims, as well as frontline workers and concerned friends and family by phone, email and webchat.

Young people’s violence in close relationships

In 2008 Respect launched a Young People’s Service. It focusses on interventions with young people who use violence and abuse in close relationships, including:

  • relationship abuse;
  • adolescent to parent violence and/or;
  • abusive behaviour within the family e.g. sibling abuse, young parent abuse.

Our work is mainly targeted at ages 10 – 25 years, but we also consider younger children.

We offer a range of resources for frontline workers and provide a variety of events and training modules. More information on our range of work here.

The Safe and Together Partnership

Respect, with the London Boroughs of Waltham Forest and Hackney have formed a partnership to implement the Safe & Together Model. Learn more.


Respect provides a broad range of training for frontline workers supporting domestic violence perpetrators, male victims of domestic violence and young people’s violence in close relationships. More information here.


Respect runs a programme of events for frontline workers, service managers, commissioners, funders, policy workers and researchers. Our events are practical and accessible, underpinning our three core strands of work: perpetrators of domestic violence, male victims of domestic violence and young people’s violence in close relationship; and support our ethos of high quality and safe service provision. More information here.


We work in partnership with several universities to develop knowledge about how to respond effectively to male and female perpetrators.