Respect’s Research and Services Development Manager appointed Welsh Women’s Aid CEO

Respect’s Research and Services Development Manager, Sara Kirkpatrick, has been offered and accepted an exciting opportunity to lead Welsh Women’s Aid from April 2020.

Sara has contributed greatly to the growth of Respect in recent years, leading on multiple projects such as Accreditation,  Ascent , Advance  and not least our Change that Lasts  partnership with Welsh Women’s Aid.

As CEO of Welsh Women’s Aid, Sara will be driving forward their  5 year strategic plan Still We Rise and strengthening and building on relationships across the VAWDASV sector.  We at Respect wish her every success in this exciting new role.

Jo Todd CEO of Respect says: 

“I am delighted that Sara’s talents have been recognised and that she’s moving on to lead such a fabulous organisation.  She has been a real asset to Respect, and I’m sure she’ll continue to be so for Welsh Women’s Aid, building on the work of her predecessor, Eleri Butler.

Respect has been fortunate to work closely with all our colleagues at Welsh Women’s Aid, particularly over the last few years with our joint work on the Change that Lasts Perpetrator Response in South Wales, which Sara has led for Respect.  It’s a ground-breaking project and brilliant partnership which I greatly value.

On a personal note, I’ll miss Sara hugely, but look forward to continuing to work closely with her and Welsh Women’s Aid in the future.”

Sara Kirkpatrick Research & Services Development manager says: 

“It has been an incredible 4 years with Respect, watching the organisation grow and meeting so many colleagues and members who are truly committed to ending violence against women by holding perpetrators to account. I will continue to champion Respect and their leadership in demanding safe, effective accountable responses to perpetrators.

I have learnt so much from my colleagues on the two helplines, but particularly the Men’s Advice line with their understanding of the needs of Male Victims and the compassion, advice and specialist support they which they offer.

I am truly delighted to be joining Welsh Women’s Aid and look forward to working with my sister federations and our allies to continue to build a safer more equal world where violence against women and girls is eradicated.”

Call to action for a perpetrator strategy

All parliamentary party group on perpetrators attendees

Drive urges government to publish and fund a new Domestic Abuse Perpetrator Strategy as new evidence confirms impact of perpetrator interventions.

The campaign – which is co-signed by Respect along with household names from Barnado’s to Shelter, Social Finance to SafeLives and Women’s Aid, Police and Crime Commissioners and a swathe of academics, calls on the Government to publish and invest in a strategy that holds perpetrators to account and protects victims. It has been formally endorsed by the Royal College of General Practitioners.

There is more information about the evidence of the impact of Drive pilots and the call to action, here.

We are recruiting: Helpline Advisor (Men’s Advice Line)

About Respect 

Respect is a pioneering UK domestic abuse charity, leading the development of safe, effective work with perpetrators, with young people who are abusive and with male victims.

Respect supports frontline organisations across the UK, so that together we can end domestic abuse.

Our work is wide ranging: we offer accreditation of specialist services; we provide training for individuals and organisations working in the sector; we work in partnership with others to innovate and develop practice; we lobby influencers to improve policy and practice; we support up-to-date research undertaken by specialists in the field; and we fundraise to ensure important work continues to happen. 

Respect also runs the Men’s Advice Line, a helpline that has been accredited with the Helplines Partnership’s Quality Standard. The Men’s Advice Line is for male victims of domestic abuse (in heterosexual or same-sex relationships), as well as frontline workers and concerned friends and family supporting them.

We are recruiting a part-time Helpline Advisor to support male victims of domestic abuse on the Men’s Advice Line by phone, email and webchat.

Deadline for applications: Monday 25 November 9am.

Interviews: Friday 29 November. 

How to apply:

Download the documents below, complete and email by Monday 25 November 9am

Helpline Advisor (Men’s Advice Line) JD&PS 2019-20

Helpline Advisor (Men’s Advice Line) employment application form 2019-20

Respect equality monitoring form

Perpetrators in the early stages of help-seeking

We are delighted to publish a new report titled Perpetrators in the early stages of help-seeking-Views of service users.Westmarland N. and Burrell S.R. (2019) an evaluation of the Respect Phoneline.

The research project was carried out by Professor Nicole Westmarland and Dr Stephen Burrell and of the Centre for Research into Violence and Abuse, Department of Sociology, Durham University.

The report includes interviews with male and female perpetrators who talk about their motivation for calling the helpline; including wanting to find out if their behaviours towards their partners are abusive, learning how to manage their anger and enrolling on behaviour-change programmes.

The men and women who were interviewed gave overwhelmingly positive feedback about the Respect Phoneline and the service provided by the Advisors they spoke to. A few interviewees gave the service 10 out of 10 in terms of satisfaction:

‘Because the guy that answered, I didn’t feel judged, I felt listened to, he offered information and advice as well and I got a contact for follow up work for a choose to change course.’

The issue of availability of local behaviour-change programmes for all those who need them came up for a few interviewees.


The voices of male victims

We are delighted to publish a new report titled The voices of male victims-Burrell S.R. and Westmarland N. (2019) an evaluation for Respect.

The research project was carried out by Dr Stephen Burrell and Professor Nicole Westmarland of the Centre for Research into Violence and Abuse, Department of Sociology, Durham University.

The report provides unique insights into callers’ expectations and experience of the Men’s Advice Line, their help-seeking behaviours, and their perceptions of domestic abuse services more broadly.

The men who were interviewed gave overwhelmingly positive feedback about the Men’s Advice Line and the service provided by the helpline workers they spoke to.

An interviewee commented about the Helpline Advisor he spoke to:

‘What she said, and the way she said it, the feeling of warmth and understanding that she gave me, it choked me up, it was so powerful. It really picked me up off floor.’

The recommendations in the report will be useful for any service supporting  male victims. We are very proud of the authors’ final recommendation:

‘Respect could share the good practice modelled by the Men’s Advice Line as much as possible to ensure that other services can learn from this exemplary work and respond similarly effectively to men’

Respect Male Victims’ Standard – accreditation for services supporting male victims

We are delighted to announce that we have published the Respect Male Victims’ Standard – accreditation for services supporting male victims of domestic abuse. We now accept applications from organisations who want to accredit their male victims’ service.

We developed the Respect Male Victims’ Standard so that service users, funders, commissioners, policy makers and referring agencies, can be assured that an accredited service provides high-quality, safety-focused interventions.

To support services who want to get accredited, we are offering a free workshop on the Respect Male Victims’ Standard. The workshop will help practitioners and service managers explore the accreditation process step-by-step, understand the requirements and the evidence required and evaluate next steps such as actions required and planning.

You can download the Respect Male Victims’ Standard, find out about the accreditation process, register for the free workshop and access other resources here.

The Respect Male Victims’ Standard has been endorsed by the Home Office:

“I am delighted to introduce and endorse the Respect Male Victims’ Standard which will allow the safe support to victims and survivors of these terrible crimes. I strongly encourage all commissioners to use the Respect Male Victims’ Standard when commissioning work with male victims.” Victoria Atkins MP, Parliamentary Under Secretary of State for Crime, Safeguarding and Vulnerability and Parliamentary Under Secretary of State.

London Safe & Together Partnership Conference and Launch

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30th September 2019 / 9.30-4pm / Tickets £50

Lunch and Refreshments Provided

Leyton Orient, Breyer Group Stadium, Brisbane Road, Leyton, E10 5NF

Are you a children’s services professional? Do you work in the domestic abuse sector? Are you interested in system change responses?

Safe & Together is an approach designed to support Children’s Services and surrounding systems that work with the intersection of domestic abuse and children, to improve the response to domestic abuse. The belief of Safe & Together is that children are often best served when kept ‘safe and together’ with the adult domestic abuse survivor. The model provides a framework for partnering with domestic abuse victims and intervening with domestic abuse perpetrators to enhance the safety and well-being of children.

The model recognises that many domestic abuse perpetrators will remain in contact with their children, therefore it is critical, for the sake of the children, that practitioners seek to encourage consistent, positive and meaningful change in perpetrators.

Safe & Together has had international success in changing children’s services’ responses to domestic abuse, amassing a strong evidence-base for improving outcomes for children; increasing the number of children who remain safely with their non-abusive parent and decreasing re-referral rates. Respect along with the London Boroughs of Hackney and Waltham Forest are working together to implement the Safe and Together Model.

This conference provides an opportunity to hear from David Mandel, founder of the Safe and Together Institute, and Anna Mitchel, European lead for Safe and Together and her experience of implementing the Safe and Together model in Edinburgh. Further speakers to be announced.

We are grateful for the support of Leyton Orient Football Club, who made this event possible.

For tickets: click here 

Respect Male Victims Toolkit – FAQs

Does the Respect Male Victims Toolkit refer to how a helpline or the Respect Men’s Advice Line operates?

No. The Respect Male Victims Toolkit is designed for frontline workers who support male victims of domestic abuse in a face-to-face setting. It is not a model of work for the Men’s Advice Line. It uses valuable insight and data gained from over 31,000 calls to the Men’s Advice Line (Respect’s helpline for male victims of domestic abuse). It would be impossible to use the assessment tools contained in the Respect Toolkit for Male Victims in a helpline setting, as it would take 3-4 hours to do so.

What is assessment, what is screening and are there differences between these?

Assessment, is a process in which questions are asked to better understand the needs of the client to ensure the service provides the right type of support. The client is then offered specific support and advice within the service and is not turned away except in exceptional circumstances. Screening, however, is an approach used to establish whether a potential service user is eligible for a service. For example, a counselling service for 16-25-year olds will ask potential service users how old they are; this is a ‘screening question’. The service will inform those outside this age bracket that they cannot be offered support and direct them to a different service. These are very different approaches.

Does Respect Male Victims Toolkit recommend screening or assessing male victims of domestic abuse?

The Respect Male Victims Toolkit does not recommend screening male victims of domestic abuse. It recommends that all service users, male and female, should be assessed, so that their support needs can be met in the best way possible. Respect does not screen male victims. 

Does the Respect Male Victims Toolkit recommend different assessments for male and female victims of domestic abuse?

No. On the contrary, we recommend that organisations supporting female and male victims of domestic abuse must ensure that their assessment processes are consistent and cohesive. Respect does not recommend the use of a separate assessment process for male and female victims, as there is a risk that one client group might inadvertently be discriminated against. We recommend that organisations should decide that both female and male service users are proactively asked about their use of violence and abuse when assessed, or that neither male or female service users are asked. We have included this recommendation in the Respect Toolkit for Male Victims of Domestic Abuse.

Job vacancy: Safe and Together Implementation Lead

This is an exciting opportunity to be at heart of implementing the innovative Safe and Together Model.

The Safe and Together model (see ) has had international success in changing Children’s Services’ response to domestic abuse, increasing the number of children who remain safely with their non-abusive parent and decreasing the high re-referral rate. This project will roll out Safe and Together across two London Authorities, Hackney and Waltham Forest over an eighteen-month period.

The Principles of Safe and Together:

  1. Keep children Safe and Together with their non-abusive parent, ensuring safety, healing from trauma, stability and nurturance.
  2. Partnering with non-abusive parent as a default position ensuring efficiency, efficacy and child-centred practice.
  3. Intervening with the perpetrator to reduce the risk and harm to the child through engagement, accountability and criminal justice.

This post will work across both local authorities supporting the implementation of the Safe and Together model and its integration into practice.  Respect believe that Safe and Together has a huge potential to drive improvements to children’s services across the UK and this post is an opportunity to be involved at an early stage. We are looking for a motivated individual with commitment to improve both practice and culture to achieve better outcomes for children affected by domestic abuse.

Location   2 days in Walthamstow and 2 days in Hackney.  Respect offices are in Bethnal Green, and some meetings will be held here.

Salary £41,722. (point 42 on Respect’s scale, related to the NJC scale) including Inner London Weighting; plus 6% pension contribution

Contract             35 hours per week, Fixed term contract 18 month

Closing date     15th July 2019

Interviews          25th July 2019

To apply: download the Safe and Together Implementation Lead Job Description and complete the Respect-employment-application-form and the Respect equality monitoring form and send to

Please do not send us a CV.  No agencies.

Respect are committed to quality, equality and valuing diversity and applications are particularly welcome from black and minority ethnic candidates.

The post will be subject to an enhanced DBS check.

Respect registered charity no: 1141636.

Respect statement on the Domestic Abuse Bill Committee Report

Respect is pleased to welcome the Domestic Abuse Bill Committee’s report today, which includes a clear understanding for the need for a truly cross-departmental, multi-agency response to domestic abuse, a commitment to prevention and early intervention, and a recognition of the gendered nature of domestic abuse and the importance of this for procurement and delivery of services.  We are also glad to see the Committee recognise the needs of children and of migrant women and highlight that these both need more attention.

Regarding perpetrators, we were pleased to see that the Drive project (a partnership between Respect, SafeLives and Social Finance aimed at perpetrators causing high levels of harm) and Respect Accreditation of perpetrator interventions were both recognised.  We welcome the Committee’s statement that:

The Government must…ensure that there is sufficient provision of quality assured specialist interventions for the full spectrum of perpetrators, across all risk levels. This will require an adequate level of funding and cooperation with expert providers.” [196]

Respect continues to call for coherent, strategic funding proportionate to the scale of the problem – which the government itself has costed at £66bn – both for specialist voluntary sector services (for survivors, children and perpetrators) and to improve frontline statutory service provision.