We are recruiting: Men’s Advice Line Advisor (maternity cover)

About Respect 

Respect is a pioneering UK domestic abuse charity, leading the development of safe, effective work with perpetrators, with young people who are abusive and with male victims.

Respect supports frontline organisations across the UK, so that together we can end domestic abuse.

Our work is wide ranging: we offer accreditation of specialist services; we provide training for individuals and organisations working in the sector; we work in partnership with others to innovate and develop practice; we lobby influencers to improve policy and practice; we support up-to-date research undertaken by specialists in the field; and we fundraise to ensure important work continues to happen. 

Respect also runs the Men’s Advice Line, a helpline that has been accredited with the Helplines Partnership’s Quality Standard. The Men’s Advice Line is for male victims of domestic abuse (in heterosexual or same-sex relationships), as well as frontline workers and concerned friends and family supporting them.

We are looking to recruit a part-time Helpline Advisors to support male victims of domestic abuse on the Men’s Advice Line by phone, email and webchat.

Deadline for applications: Sunday 12 October midnight.

Interviews: Thursday 17 October – all day, group interviews. Please do not apply if you are not available to attend group interviews from 10:00-16:00 on 17 October. 


Respect Men’s Advice Line Helpline Advisor (maternity cover) 2019-20

Respect Men’s Advice Line Advisor employment application form-maternity cover 2019-20

Respect equality monitoring form

Respect Male Victims’ Standard – accreditation for services supporting male victims

We are delighted to announce that we have published the Respect Male Victims’ Standard – accreditation for services supporting male victims of domestic abuse. We now accept applications from organisations who want to accredit their male victims’ service.

We developed the Respect Male Victims’ Standard so that service users, funders, commissioners, policy makers and referring agencies, can be assured that an accredited service provides high-quality, safety-focused interventions.

To support services who want to get accredited, we are offering a free workshop on the Respect Male Victims’ Standard. The workshop will help practitioners and service managers explore the accreditation process step-by-step, understand the requirements and the evidence required and evaluate next steps such as actions required and planning.

You can download the Respect Male Victims’ Standard, find out about the accreditation process, register for the free workshop and access other resources here.

The Respect Male Victims’ Standard has been endorsed by the Home Office:

“I am delighted to introduce and endorse the Respect Male Victims’ Standard which will allow the safe support to victims and survivors of these terrible crimes. I strongly encourage all commissioners to use the Respect Male Victims’ Standard when commissioning work with male victims.” Victoria Atkins MP, Parliamentary Under Secretary of State for Crime, Safeguarding and Vulnerability and Parliamentary Under Secretary of State.

London Safe & Together Partnership Conference and Launch

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30th September 2019 / 9.30-4pm / Tickets £50

Lunch and Refreshments Provided

Leyton Orient, Breyer Group Stadium, Brisbane Road, Leyton, E10 5NF

Are you a children’s services professional? Do you work in the domestic abuse sector? Are you interested in system change responses?

Safe & Together is an approach designed to support Children’s Services and surrounding systems that work with the intersection of domestic abuse and children, to improve the response to domestic abuse. The belief of Safe & Together is that children are often best served when kept ‘safe and together’ with the adult domestic abuse survivor. The model provides a framework for partnering with domestic abuse victims and intervening with domestic abuse perpetrators to enhance the safety and well-being of children.

The model recognises that many domestic abuse perpetrators will remain in contact with their children, therefore it is critical, for the sake of the children, that practitioners seek to encourage consistent, positive and meaningful change in perpetrators.

Safe & Together has had international success in changing children’s services’ responses to domestic abuse, amassing a strong evidence-base for improving outcomes for children; increasing the number of children who remain safely with their non-abusive parent and decreasing re-referral rates. Respect along with the London Boroughs of Hackney and Waltham Forest are working together to implement the Safe and Together Model.

This conference provides an opportunity to hear from David Mandel, founder of the Safe and Together Institute, and Anna Mitchel, European lead for Safe and Together and her experience of implementing the Safe and Together model in Edinburgh. Further speakers to be announced.

We are grateful for the support of Leyton Orient Football Club, who made this event possible.

For tickets: click here 

Respect Male Victims Toolkit – FAQs

Does the Respect Male Victims Toolkit refer to how a helpline or the Respect Men’s Advice Line operates?

No. The Respect Male Victims Toolkit is designed for frontline workers who support male victims of domestic abuse in a face-to-face setting. It is not a model of work for the Men’s Advice Line. It uses valuable insight and data gained from over 31,000 calls to the Men’s Advice Line (Respect’s helpline for male victims of domestic abuse). It would be impossible to use the assessment tools contained in the Respect Toolkit for Male Victims in a helpline setting, as it would take 3-4 hours to do so.

What is assessment, what is screening and are there differences between these?

Assessment, is a process in which questions are asked to better understand the needs of the client to ensure the service provides the right type of support. The client is then offered specific support and advice within the service and is not turned away except in exceptional circumstances. Screening, however, is an approach used to establish whether a potential service user is eligible for a service. For example, a counselling service for 16-25-year olds will ask potential service users how old they are; this is a ‘screening question’. The service will inform those outside this age bracket that they cannot be offered support and direct them to a different service. These are very different approaches.

Does Respect Male Victims Toolkit recommend screening or assessing male victims of domestic abuse?

The Respect Male Victims Toolkit does not recommend screening male victims of domestic abuse. It recommends that all service users, male and female, should be assessed, so that their support needs can be met in the best way possible. Respect does not screen male victims. 

Does the Respect Male Victims Toolkit recommend different assessments for male and female victims of domestic abuse?

No. On the contrary, we recommend that organisations supporting female and male victims of domestic abuse must ensure that their assessment processes are consistent and cohesive. Respect does not recommend the use of a separate assessment process for male and female victims, as there is a risk that one client group might inadvertently be discriminated against. We recommend that organisations should decide that both female and male service users are proactively asked about their use of violence and abuse when assessed, or that neither male or female service users are asked. We have included this recommendation in the Respect Toolkit for Male Victims of Domestic Abuse.

Job vacancy: Safe and Together Implementation Lead

This is an exciting opportunity to be at heart of implementing the innovative Safe and Together Model.

The Safe and Together model (see https://safeandtogetherinstitute.com/about-us/about-the-model/ ) has had international success in changing Children’s Services’ response to domestic abuse, increasing the number of children who remain safely with their non-abusive parent and decreasing the high re-referral rate. This project will roll out Safe and Together across two London Authorities, Hackney and Waltham Forest over an eighteen-month period.

The Principles of Safe and Together:

  1. Keep children Safe and Together with their non-abusive parent, ensuring safety, healing from trauma, stability and nurturance.
  2. Partnering with non-abusive parent as a default position ensuring efficiency, efficacy and child-centred practice.
  3. Intervening with the perpetrator to reduce the risk and harm to the child through engagement, accountability and criminal justice.

This post will work across both local authorities supporting the implementation of the Safe and Together model and its integration into practice.  Respect believe that Safe and Together has a huge potential to drive improvements to children’s services across the UK and this post is an opportunity to be involved at an early stage. We are looking for a motivated individual with commitment to improve both practice and culture to achieve better outcomes for children affected by domestic abuse.

Location   2 days in Walthamstow and 2 days in Hackney.  Respect offices are in Bethnal Green, and some meetings will be held here.

Salary £41,722. (point 42 on Respect’s scale, related to the NJC scale) including Inner London Weighting; plus 6% pension contribution

Contract             35 hours per week, Fixed term contract 18 month

Closing date     15th July 2019

Interviews          25th July 2019

To apply: download the Safe and Together Implementation Lead Job Description and complete the Respect-employment-application-form and the Respect equality monitoring form and send to info@respect.uk.net

Please do not send us a CV.  No agencies.

Respect are committed to quality, equality and valuing diversity and applications are particularly welcome from black and minority ethnic candidates.

The post will be subject to an enhanced DBS check.

Respect registered charity no: 1141636.

Respect statement on the Domestic Abuse Bill Committee Report

Respect is pleased to welcome the Domestic Abuse Bill Committee’s report today, which includes a clear understanding for the need for a truly cross-departmental, multi-agency response to domestic abuse, a commitment to prevention and early intervention, and a recognition of the gendered nature of domestic abuse and the importance of this for procurement and delivery of services.  We are also glad to see the Committee recognise the needs of children and of migrant women and highlight that these both need more attention.

Regarding perpetrators, we were pleased to see that the Drive project (a partnership between Respect, SafeLives and Social Finance aimed at perpetrators causing high levels of harm) and Respect Accreditation of perpetrator interventions were both recognised.  We welcome the Committee’s statement that:

The Government must…ensure that there is sufficient provision of quality assured specialist interventions for the full spectrum of perpetrators, across all risk levels. This will require an adequate level of funding and cooperation with expert providers.” [196]

Respect continues to call for coherent, strategic funding proportionate to the scale of the problem – which the government itself has costed at £66bn – both for specialist voluntary sector services (for survivors, children and perpetrators) and to improve frontline statutory service provision.

Press Release: RoW and Respect – Proposed new domestic abuse injunctions regime fails to put ‘victims at the centre’

  •   Joint Committee on the draft Domestic Abuse Bill recommends a thorough review of the protective measures currently available before going ahead with its proposals for Domestic Abuse Protection Orders (DAPOs)
  •   Specialist charities providing legal advice to victims and working with perpetrators share concerns that proposed scheme will be unworkable and will fail victims


Today’s publication of the report from the Joint Committee on the draft Domestic Abuse Bill raises important questions about the Government’s proposals to replace domestic violence protection orders (DVPOs) with DAPOs while leaving the existing injunction regime in place.

Both Rights of Women and Respect, who are leading charities that support survivors, provided evidence to the Committee that warned of the problems with the new DAPO scheme.

We are pleased the Committee has taken on board many of our concerns and has recommended a thorough review of the protective measures currently available before going ahead with these proposals.

Today we have published a briefing about the introduction of Domestic Abuse Protection Orders to set out clearly why, in their current form, they will not achieve the Government’s stated aim of providing additional protection for victims of domestic abuse. We agree with the Joint Committee that“the simple question which the draft Bill does not address is which organisation or organisations are to be responsible for the monitoring of positive requirements. Without this clarity, the provisions relating to this proposal may fail.”

We have made recommendations for improvements to be considered in any review based on the following key principles:

  • The voice of the victim is central to decisions about her protection.
  • IDVAs play a crucial role in advocating for victims and ensuring the appropriate support is in place.
  • Not all perpetrators are the same. What is an appropriate intervention for one may not be appropriate for someone else. Specialist assessment is necessary to ensure the right interventions are used.
  • Positive requirements should not be put in place without appropriate monitoring and reporting on the outcome of the work especially to the victim.
  • For interventions to be successful, the system must work effectively to ensure that the correct intervention is ordered, the intervention is of high quality and any action to address breaches is properly enforced.
  • IDVAs and specialist programmes must be properly resourced.

Olive Craig, Senior Legal Officer at Rights of Women said today:

“The proposed new DAPO regime requires much more thought and resourcing to even begin to make it workable.  Domestic abuse injunctions play a critical role in providing protection for women against perpetrators. The cost of introducing a flawed scheme will be women’s safety; we urge the Government to rethink their approach.”

Jo Todd, CEO of Respect said today:

“Whilst we are pleased that the government is focusing on perpetrators, we are concerned that the proposed DAPO measures have not been sufficiently thought through and instead of protecting victims of domestic abuse might actually make things worse.  We hope to be able to work with the government and our partners in the sector to ensure that any scheme is safe, effective and accountable.”

Rights of Women is a leading women’s legal rights charity that provide free legal advice to women survivors of domestic abuse and sexual violence

Respect is a pioneering UK domestic abuse charity, leading the development of safe, effective work with perpetrators, with young people who are abusive and with male victims.

For further information contact either Estelle du Boulay, Director of Rights of Women on 02072516575 / estelle@row.org.uk or Jo Todd, Respect CEO on 02035596650 / jo.todd@respect.uk.net

 Read transcripts of evidence given at the Joint Committee on the Draft Domestic Abuse Bill 


The Joint Committee on the Draft Domestic Abuse Bill has been hearing evidence from experts in the sector, including Respect’s CEO, Jo Todd.  There have been three sessions thus far:


Session 1 (2 April 2019) heard evidence from Lucy Hadley, Campaigns and Public Affairs Officer, Women’s Aid, Andrea Simon, Public Affairs Manager, End Violence Against Women, and Ellie Butt, Senior Policy and Public Affairs Manager, Refuge; Karla McLaren Government and Political Relations Manager, Amnesty International, Olive Craig, Senior Legal Officer, Rights of Women, and Rachel Robinson, Principal, Justice Domain, Equality and Human Rights Commission


Session 2 (23 April 2019) heard evidence from Emily Frith, Head of Policy and Advocacy, Office of the Children’s Commissioner, Eleanor Briggs, Head of Policy and Research, Action for Children, and Debbie Moss, Chief of Staff, Barnardo’s; Elspeth Thomson, member of the Resolution National Committee, Resolution, Amanda Barron JP, Domestic Abuse Liaison Magistrate for the Central London Magistrates Courts, Nicole Jacobs, CEO, and Tanya Allen, Specialist Domestic Abuse Court Coordinator, Standing Together Against Domestic Abuse


Session 3 (30 April 2019) heard evidence from Duncan Shrubsole, Director of Policy, Communications and Research, Lloyds Banking Foundation, and Lyndsey Dearlove, Head of UK SAYS NO MORE, Hestia Housing and Support; Donna Covey CBE, Chief Executive, Against Violence and Abuse (AVA), Dr Jasna Magic, Domestic Abuse Research and Policy Development, Galop, Jo Todd, Chief Executive Officer, Respect, and Ruth Bashall, Chief Executive Officer, Stay Safe East

Introducing ‘Make a Change’ and announcing partners.

Respect and Women’s Aid England are working together to develop an early response to perpetrators of domestic violence and abuse, this is aligned with and influenced by the Change That Lasts response to survivors.  It is funded by the Police Transformation Fund and supported by the Office of Police Commissioner in Lincolnshire and Sussex where the pilot sites will be located. 

The project is a whole systems approach to tackling domestic abuse.  As well as working with individuals, we are seeking to change systems that enable abuse to continue, working with communities and organisations to achieve this.  We will break new ground in terms of service delivery and partnership working, enabling behaviour change, increasing accountability and ensuring good quality outcomes for survivors and their children.  The safety of survivors and children is at the heart of the design.

More information on the established Women’s Aid Model Change that Lasts survivor model can be found here:   

The intervention aimed at addressing the perpetration of abuse will be called ‘Make a Change’.

Those who engage with us will have the opportunity to Make a Change for:

·         Their community

·         Their organisation

·         Themselves

·         Their families

The work is aligned to the principles and ethos of Women’s Aid England’s Change That Lasts approach but is different in that we are responding to the perpetration of domestic abuse.  The Make a Change model is developed in line with Respect Standards

To deliver Make a Change we will be working with a number of partners in Sussex and Lincolnshire and an independent academic evaluator.

We are delighted to announce that our delivery partners in Sussex will be:

Rise – for the survivor focus, to ensure that survivors and children are effectively supported when we offer perpetrators interventions

Cranstoun – for the perpetrator focus, to deliver both group and 1:1 work with perpetrators and to support us when working with organisations and communities to raise awareness of the issues and support them to develop frameworks and skills for robust responses. 

In Lincolnshire we will be working with:

SOLDAS (formerly Boston Women’s Aid) to deliver our survivor support service.

The Jenkins Centre – to deliver to deliver both group and 1:1 work with perpetrators and to support us when working with organisations and communities to raise awareness of the issues and support them to develop frameworks and skills for robust responses. 

We are also very pleased to announce that we will be working with the University of Stirling to support us with an independent evaluation of our work.  Findings will be published as the work progresses.